I typed in a similar question into google search engine “how to kick my mom out” and this website came up, I am asking for help because I am probably at my lowest point in life... I have a 13 month old son and my life hasn’t gone back to our “normal” since before he was born. I had to be pregnant and welcome my son while living in our 1 bedroom apartment. Living with us during this special moment in our life’s is my mom and my 8 siblings. 4 of them are adults the rest are teens-pre teens. If you have kids I’m sure you can imagine the chaos this can cause.
They moved in March 8th 2018. My mom and my oldest sister (25) at the time allowed theirselves to be evicted with all the kids living with them in a 4 bedroom town home with the rent being very, very affordable (we pay $400 more here- it was low income living). Both of their cars had gotten repo-ed which my immediate reaction was to lend them my 2nd car. I initially only planned to let them borrow my car until tax season, until they bought themselves a new car. My mom and sister both made the same $18/hour, my other 3 adult siblings had no job, making no income, and none of which attended college. My dad is a drug addict in Mexico he was deported 8-9 years ago.
My husband and I lived with my mom until April of 2016. At this time It was time for our own privacy and space (plus me and my mom weren’t really getting along anymore) mainly because my siblings were unemployed and not contributing to rent but me and my “fiancé” (then) paid rent and mainly anything that my mom needed money for; we didn’t eat dinner at home, always ate out and I stopped worrying about cleaning taking care of my little brothers around the same time (2016). When we moved out my mom was no happy and bitter, didn’t congratulate us nor seem happy for us. This made my sister get a job ASAP because she need to “help my mom”. After I moved out things where good, I missed them more, I enjoyed visiting them, etc. (2017) This apartment lease lasted us a year and we decide to not release because we wanted to try and apply at my moms apartment (with no plan b) we moved out, put our things in a storage and moved in with my mom for what was supposed to be “2 weeks” or like she said “until the wedding” October 2017. After one week I applied for the apartments and was denied, I was confident we would qualify, we didn’t. After 2 weeks of having no respect, no space, and no peace and quiet I wanted to get out. We had to sleep in a air mattress in the living room while they all remained in there ALL night. Eventually me and my husband saved enough to move out to this one bedroom we are all in now.
Me and my husband have been together 10 years. We moved into this apt July 2017, married October 2017, conceived Jan 2018. My family moved in MARCH 2018. I have yet to enjoy my life as a family of 3. We didn’t get calm before the storm (newborn), we didn’t get to enjoy the newborn phase ALONE. All this has been haunting me for almost 2 years now. Me and my husband where falling apart until we both reached out for therapy separately.
I need help to stand up for myself and ask my mom to move out because she seems to not be affected by this other then when I demand certain things to be cleaned, dealt with, done around this small apartment. She plays the victim and will ignore everyone all day while she watches tv on her phone. I am very very depressed right now even tho the “solution” was for US to move out. My husband, my child, and I. For us to move out into another apartment and just let her have this one until the lease is up (not reviewing the lease) just allowing her to live in it until the lease is up in July. But I can’t live with this choice without feeling like I’ve lost because now WE have to save for security deposit, first months rent all while still paying our bills (car,light,phone bill, groceries, baby necessities).
How can I word my request without breaking down on her? I hate crying.