never done this before just looking I think for someone to tell me to smarten up. My dad went in hospital april 7th 2007, Very Very healthy man, had anyerism, he is parilized now, and partially blind, in a nursing home, and for what he has gone through doing outstanding. Getting ready to go back home. he will receive 45 hours a week nursing care, and one of my sisters has found she hopes a caregiver for a few hours a week as well. She lives across the street from him but runs a daycare, another sister works full time, and another sister does seasonal work. I am retired have been for two years. I am 52. My dad has made it know that I am retired and therefore can pretty much be there when ever, I am about twenty to thirty minutes away, I am married my husband is not impressed with that notion and neither is my 31 year old daughter who is also ;married with two children of her own. I am always been active in my daughters and grandchildrens life, but as of the last year have not been able to be, he has always been two to three hours away one way. We have done the trip in the beginning three times a week then twice now one as he is six hours away round trip. I live in NH alot of snow up here!! I finally spoke up to two of my sisters, and said I did not want to do the butt cleaning thing and I did not want to be spending all my life taking care of him and I had concerns about him comeing home safty wise. One sister did not care as long as he came home we could deal with the problems later, (meaning me) I am the oldest. I feel selfish, bad, uncareing. you name it I feel it. I spend nights crying over this and it has even started yet I am scared.
sorry so long. I could go on quite a bit more. its ok give me hell.