How can I help when my Mom doesn't want my help or the facility help?

One of the best resources is the Elder Care Service in your town or town where your mother lives. They can provide so much information as they deal with these situations all the time. I don't know your mother's medical condition or if she is not capable mentally. I saw that you mentioned you did not want to be her POA anymore. If not, you would most likely have to go to court and have a guardian appointed. If this happens, you would have no say over where she would be placed. And if this happens, she could be placed in a facility that you might not like.

I hope you can find some assistance. Hugs to you across the miles.

You can check with your Area Agency on Aging or ask Adult Protective Services what your next step is. If your mother is cognitively sound, then she has the right to make her own choices. So do you. I'm not sure about your state, but I do think that in many states you can decline your status as POA, if that's your choice. You may need to ask for some advice from an attorney.

The main thing to remember is that we can't live another person's life for them. It's not your fault if she's making poor choices.

Please keep checking back for support from this community. There's a lot of wisdom among this vast array of caregivers.
Carol

Thank you for the advice. I have been working with the social worker. Mother is two weeks away from eviction and I don't think she really understands the whole scope of her situation. She refuses help from the AL and the Doctor. They have tried. She doesn't want my help either. Do I let her figure it out for herself? Almost 97, can't see, can't hear, can't walk well.in wheelchair most of the time. Was evaluated and was told it was not safe for her to cook. Stove was turned off, microwave taken away, and small appliances confiscated. Then In-law brought in microwave when he knew she was not allowed to cook. That was it for AL.
I can never do it right for her. If she doesn't want my help or anyone else's the Sheriff can be called. If she does have plans to move to another place she refuses to share with the AL or me. I will contact elder care. Thanks

I think that Adult Protective Services, or as you say, the Sheriff may be your only choice. They will figure something out. You can't be responsible in this situation.
Keep us posted on how you're doing.
Carol