My 88 yr. old MIL was hospitalized last month, after a fall, and becoming super sleepy and unresponsive. (UTI, gout, severe osteoporosis) She stopped eating and drinking and after a week, was too weak to walk. Then they switched from one antibiotic to a better one for her raging UTI, and she came back to life. Upon waking, she was hallucinating and delusional, but that also was transitory. We transferred her to the Nursing Home across the street from the hospital, and she stayed there for three more weeks. Last week she was assessed as being strong enough to return home. After 2 days at home, she has wrenched her back and cracked a rib while on the toilet (?). She was bedridden at home, unable to do minimal self care. My husband has tried to nurse her, but he can't do it, so we have arrangements to move her back to the nursing home today.
The sad part is that she feels we are betraying her. She says she HATES it there, and we should just dump her on a plane and send her to her daughter in Florida (who has her own medical issues, and MIL can't travel)... She told me some mean things, and now is saying mean things to her son. I know she's angry and lashing out. We've assured her of our love and done everything we can think of, but WHAT do we do if she resists, physically?? How do you override an elder's personal freedom and MAKE them go into care?
My stomach hurts.