At 79, she required a pacemaker last April which went very well--her pulse is now fine and doctors have assured her it's added years to her life. But she won't hear of it. Quit her job as a professor; stays in the house most of the time; is terrified of falling and dwells on every ache and pain as potential disaster. I told her she's fine but she flips out every time I accuse her of this being self-imposed. Says I don't understand and "punishes" me with threats of "I won't tell you anything more; I won't tell you if and when I see a doctor; don't call me etc." I have tried to be patient but she is getting on my last nerve! I have a husband and teenager and a full-time job. No matter what I do for her, it's not good enough. I devoted three months to taking care of her when she recovered from the pacemaker, coaching her back into some semblance of life when she was petrified and depressed. Is this my thank you? How do I draw some boundaries with a woman who is clearly suffering from anxiety and won't do anything to help herself? It's like she lives for the drama because it gets her my attention and sympathy!