My grandmother was living independently in a two story condo until she was 98 and had a fall where she broke her arm. She moved into a rehab facility but complained non stop, after that my family put her in a really nice assisted living but it was "on the other side of the river" so not in the town she had lived in her whole life. She did pretty well there until recently when she started getting more depressed and crying. When I say my grandmother is 99 I do not mean your typical 99 year old. She likes Ed Sheeran and Gwen Stefani and watches the bachelor and drinks beer. I had never seen her cry in my life, I saw her punch someone once but never cry. She got kicked out of her assisted living because she wouldn't do the physical therapy and they were concerned for the safety of their aides who would have to lift her into her wheelchair etc. So my family moved her into a nursing home, the same facility she was at for rehab. I was with her during the move, at her assisted living she had just gotten her hair done and was having lunch with friends...smiling and laughing. When we were leaving she was crying and all the aides were hugging her...when we got to nursing home she had a melt down that she had a roomate and she was screaming and crying. It was so hard for me that I actually had to leave the room crying and I passed out. My grandmother would never have left any of us in a dump like this. She used to get up and get dressed every day with the help of the aides. At her new nursing home she has only gotten up once, she is basically bed ridden now. The staff isn't very friendly and they don't return my calls or help me set up physical therapy. I live in CA and my whole family lives in CT. Tonight she called us scared because an aide threw pizza at her. I'm very very worried but not sure what to do, if i complain they will treat her worse. If we move her to another facility she will be further from my family members and it will probably be just as dumpy. Shes going onto Medicaid now and I really don't know what other options there are. I thought maybe if she was in a private room she would be happier but that is $13,000 a month...Medicaid only covers the shared rooms. I know no one probably has any ideas or answers but i'm so sick over this. She keeps saying it isn't fair she has to spend the end of her life there, and that if you live long you get punished. I have never seen her this emotional and upset. I thought about moving home but even then I wouldn't have the money or resources to care for her. Feeling lost.