My mother in law lives in an apartment connected to our house. We moved her from CA to be near us and had this apartment built. We see her every day, sometimes in a quality way and sometimes just to say hi and/or discuss logistics. But she has always had anxiety/depression and it's gotten stronger as her memory has gotten weaker, despite now being on antidepressants. She's said many, many times that she needs the companionship of people her age, and it's been clear that no matter how much time we give her (while also living our lives), it's not enough. So when a spot opened in an assisted living place nearby that she's wanted to live in, we encouraged her to say yes, and she did. She'll be moving in 2 months.
But now she thinks we're pushing her out in order to get another family member (her stepson) in, which just isn't true. And she says she never sees us, that it's like she has "no family", that no one cares about her. It's so not true and we have tried SO hard to do whatever we can to make her life happier. This seems to be deep-down emotions now surfacing, which means that it's almost impossible to convince her that what she's feeling is not the truth. We're also too busy w/ our own lives (we have a 6 year old, jobs, etc) to do much more than we're currently doing.
Any advice or simply words of wisdom/encouragement? It's so hard to watch her suffer--but also so frustrating to hear her accuse us of neglecting her when we try so hard!