My dad is in a nursing facility. He started out in the self-care section and in less than one year after moving in, he was moved to frail-care. The reason is that his joints, we are told, are so stiff, he cannot move in the morning and falls over. I have read a lot on the pills he is taking to calm him down for his dementia, which is Zoxadon (Respiredal) and Alzam, suggested by the facility and prescribed by his doctor. The side-effects are muscle stiffness and shakiness etc. He now also shakes a lot. We visited yesterday and noticed him dragging his foot behind him with the carer and we thought he had a stroke. I phoned the facility this morning and were told it was not a stroke, but arthritis, or possibly blood circulation. We, my sister and I visit him once or twice weekly and it is so hard to see this once very independent very fit 87 year old deteriorate to this extent. I am thinking of getting him 'natural' medication to help for the stiffness for example Magnesium or something similar. Any ideas or suggestions would help. Thank you in advance.
Yes, it certainly is! And it is hard when you see it develop gradually, over years, or if it seems to come on suddenly. It is hard whether it is your parent or your spouse.
Those of us who live long enough will deteriorate. And those who love us will be saddened to see us that way and will also feel helpless. In other words, this is a pretty universal situation.
You'd like to help your deteriorating loved one. We all would. And sometimes there are some things we can do to improve quality of life. I agree with Eyerishlass that it would be a mistake to add medications, natural or otherwise, without discussing it with the doctor. If you get a doctor's OK for some supplement, go for it.
Your father has no doubt had many blood tests in recent times and if there was a nutritional deficiency it would have been discovered and treated. Your father's deterioration is not because of a magnesium deficiency. Maybe you can come up with something "natural" that will help him some. If so, good for you! Just don't blame yourself or be too disappointed.
Do discuss his symptoms with the DON or doctor. Perhaps a change in medication or dosage would lessen the side effects.