My 88 Year Old father, a double amputee, has a myriad of health issues, is mostly bed-ridden and living at home, and we have been told by his doctor he is slowly declining (his wife, my stepmom passed away almost two years ago). Dad doesn’t eat or drink much anymore (mostly Ensure twice a day), and is on a lot of medications, which his doctor says he needs. He has his good days and bad days. We have been told he is not yet ready for hospice care, but will be beginning palliative care in a couple of weeks. My older sister, who is 65, lives with Dad, is his primary caregiver, and is doing her best to care for him; however, she has her own health issues. Our 55 year-old younger brother also lives in the home as well. My Dad also has a helper who comes in 3 days a week for a few hours each day to help out with him.
Here is my issue. My Dad is still pretty much of sound mind and he has expressed many times to me that he gets lonesome. My sister does spend time with him, but mostly in her caregiver capacity, as she has told me she needs her time too. My brother does not spend that much time with him, and had told me he does what he can.
I handle Dad’s business affairs and visit him just about every day and sit and talk to him. We are really close and have really good talks when he is feeling up to it. I feel so badly for him when he says he gets lonesome and am starting to feel guilty that I don’t spend more time with him. He always says how much he appreciates the visits and understands when I have to leave. He has always been social back in his younger days. How can I help realizing that I need to balance my own life as well? We do have other siblings that call occasionally to check on him, but he receives very few visitors. Appreciate any input.