How can I get my uncle into a locked facility against his will? He has alcohol induced dementia and I can't stop him from drinking.

If he is considered mentally competent, he gets to decide what he wants and when he wants it. So stop being the one who helps him to live this crazy life. If he is violent, call EMS to intervene and they will admit him involuntarily. If he hurts himself, call EMS to get him to a hospital for treatment. Stop trying to help somebody who really doesn't want your help.

Please also consider getting your own life into a good place. I suggest checking out Al-Anon - a support group for family and friends of alcoholics. These folks can help you learn new ways of dealing with your uncle. Celebrate Recovery is a Christian-based version of Al-Anon.

Hellrazor1369: Per your profile, you state that your uncle resides in your home. Not to be critical, but when did this decision come about? As far as his alcoholism, he is going to require professional assistance to CEASE consumption. He cannot just stop on his own and from all medical advice, a person who chooses to consume alcohol should not just stop at ONCE. They will have to be weaned off via a medical professional's supervision as it could, in all likelihood, end very badly for him IF he were to cease consumption at once. Then once he is under a rehabilitation's care, his physician should be the one to determine placement in a facility, not you.

I wish you lots of luck! We are trying to get my mother in law in a facility as well. Her Medicare pays less than the facilities she can afford and the one she can get in, she is on a waiting list. We are trying to get her on Medicaid but can’t get the answers to our questions. We have a hospice doctor and nurse trying to help but they have to go by the guidelines. She can’t bathe or dress herself and wants to fight us when we try to help her. She is beginning to play with her food like a child by unless she’s choking on her food, there’s no help. She is so out of it. I mean she talks out of her head and hallucinates. She is mean, abusive and curses us. She says we have taken everything from her. We have not. My husband and I have Power Of Attorney and we only use her money for her, such as a five day activity day care from 8:30 am to 1:30 pm Monday through Friday. She wanders all the time, we had to get a key bolt lock for the inside of door because she will open the door and go to the street. Several times before we could get to her, cars had to slam on brakes to keep from hitting her. It has affected us mentally and physically. We don’t want to just get rid of her, we just need her in a place that care for her, professionally, which we are no professionals.

It sounds like he is unreasonable and violent. Find a place for him, with or without his consent.