Hi I am new to the forum. It makes me feel better to know I am not the only one going through this. My mother came home on hospice with dementia 3 weeks ago. They gave her less than a month. Health wise she has gotten really strong but her mind is all mixed up. She talks all night long. Stays up for 3 days and nights. I am not ready to give morphine because I don't feel she is ready. The Ativan helps a lot. I won't give her any more of that habdol after I read the side effects. I guess I just want to know others go through the same thing
Maybe pain keeps her awake?
Maybe… YOU aren’t ready for these meds, because it’s more confirmation that her end is nigh?
This is not the time to keep any med from her that could calm or ease pain. EVERYTHING we ingest has potential side effects. Air, water, any food, any drinks.
Best of luck to you.
Hospice wouldn't be recommending these meds unless mom needed them. Giving them now would be the kindest course, in my opinion.
FYI, my husband, who has dementia, is in hospice care, and what I'm recommending to you is what I would do for him. I've also made hospice decisions for my parents in the past.
I'm so very sorry this is happening, and I wish your mom a peaceful transition.
Lately, I have been leaving the light on overnight. It seems to help calm his anxiety.
I think the darkness feels so lonely and isolating, and with dementia, not being able to see your surroundings can be a bit scary. The light is bright and cheery, and feels like daytime.
Can you get an aide in to sit with her overnights? Just someone she can talk to and feel not alone. You need to get your rest so you can stay strong for her.
If the hospice nurse recommends Morphine, go with the Morphine.
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