How can I get my mom to leave her bedroom?
We moved my mom in with us last spring (my dad is in long-term care). We are happy to have her, knowing she is safe, and seeing her enjoy her infant granddaughter. She has a caregiver several days a week who helps take her to appointments, run errands, and otherwise offers companionship. However, especially on the days without a caregiver, my mom stays in her room, either watching TV or sleeping. I've encouraged her to at least come to the living room to watch TV and the caregiver was going to add a diagram of the remote control to her personalized appliance instruction book. My mom says she prefers being in her room. I would also like to see my mom make friends. She was always shy, but difficulty with speech after a stroke makes her especially fearful of social events. I've recommended a senior center or even just a chair exercise class in town, but she says "Not now." Should I continue to encourage my mom to branch out more, and if so, how can I do this more successfully? Since my mom most likely won't agree to taking a senior shuttle to the center, do I have the caregiver bring her, or will that isolate her from other seniors (or will they ostracize her)? If I bring her, I don't want to bring my infant, because she'll get all the attention (or maybe that will make Mom more popular)? But this also means less time for me, or for baby and me activities. Thanks in advance for your help!