I’d separate the two things – urinating and bathing. DH probably goes outside to urinate because it’s slower these days (prostate issues are common) and his aim isn’t too good. My DH is much the same. If you want it to be ‘neat’ get a pot plant and hose it down occasionally. My DH also likes the view outside.
Actually taking a bath in a tub is quite difficult and even dangerous. There is heaps of stuff on the site about showers, grab rails, bathroom mods, hand-held shower extensions that fit to bath taps, etc etc. It seems like the biggest problem is upstairs bathrooms that don’t have a floor drain (which is compulsory where I am). I’d suggest that before you get him into residential care, you search the site. Two ways: a) click on Care Topics at the top right of the screen, then B for bathing. 14 professional articles, 10 discussions and 514 old questions. b) click on the magnifying glass at the top right of the screen, and find drillions of posts which mention it.
Seek to understand why he chooses to go outside to urinate. If you know that directly asking "why" could lead him to be defensive, let him know you are curious about his "routines" and want to learn more about him. He might enjoy sharing about his decision making process and you might gain a new insight to helping him, and yourself. Good luck. Peace.
More than likely the answer here would be to have your husband placed in a memory care facility, where they will have folks that know how to get dementia patients to bathe and where they keep the doors locked so he won't be able to get outside for any reason. This time of year you don't want him going outside and getting lost and even worse freezing to death do you? So please do what you must to keep him safe.
I think that, if you are caring for your Dad in your home, it may be coming close to the time to have him placed in Nursing Home or memory care for his own safety. So sorry you are facing this.
Actually taking a bath in a tub is quite difficult and even dangerous. There is heaps of stuff on the site about showers, grab rails, bathroom mods, hand-held shower extensions that fit to bath taps, etc etc. It seems like the biggest problem is upstairs bathrooms that don’t have a floor drain (which is compulsory where I am). I’d suggest that before you get him into residential care, you search the site. Two ways:
a) click on Care Topics at the top right of the screen, then B for bathing. 14 professional articles, 10 discussions and 514 old questions.
b) click on the magnifying glass at the top right of the screen, and find drillions of posts which mention it.
This time of year you don't want him going outside and getting lost and even worse freezing to death do you?
So please do what you must to keep him safe.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-help-with-bathing-and-personal-hygiene-top-tips-from-caregivers-212010.htm