I’ve been caretaker of my husband for 5 years. He has narcissistic characteristics. Whenever I discuss getting a nurse to stay with him while I work or go visit my dad it turns into an all out argument. He thinks I want him to be in the hospital or a home because he is a burden and I hate him. He cannot empathize at all. He says he would be happy to take care of me if the shoe was on the other foot. He would never feel stressed because he loves me. I must not love him since I need to get away every once in a while. I go on a 4 day girl trip once a year. He thinks he can go, stay in a hotel and be fine instead of staying home. I cannot convince him that would be worse cause I’d be pulled in two directions. He doesn’t want a stranger in the house but he also doesn’t want anyone he knows, including family. He only wants me to take care of him even when others are around and offer. I am overly stressed and cannot get away without him throwing a fit for weeks...even brings it back up years later. I wish I was exaggerating.