My mother in law is 84. She was hospitalized three years ago. When she came home she needed help because she was week. She has improved a lot since then and she can help her self with little things like putting her foot in her shoes, walking by her self, turning on tv, putting napkin on her lap, we prepared her meals, my husband gives her a bath, we take her to all appointments. My husband has taken over all her care because she didn't want any caregivers in her home. She complain about all of them every day so my husband didn't want to hear the complaining any more. She is a very difficult woman to please. My husband do so much for her and it's never enough. I see him exhaust him self I help as much as I can he work nights I work days just so one of us will be there with her all the time, but not enough she complain about everything I do or don't do. She goes to sleep every night at 11 to 1130. I have to get up at 430 every morning to be at work at 530 and when I tell her you can start getting ready for bed at 1045 she complain to my husband about it. I told him I'm tired she don't care about me or my husband she sleeps till late in the morning my husband get her up at 930 take her to the bathroom give her meds then put her back to bed. She don't eat breakfast she gets up back at 12 my husband make her lunch gives her and 2 she gets an aspirin which I told him to give her it with her blood pressure pills in the morning. She complain that it hurts her stomach but then everything she eats hurts her stomach the only thing don't hurt her stomach is the chocolates cakes all sweets. I told him she does that on purpose bc she likes the attention. It got worse when I came in his life I could be wrong but I have notice that any time I come home and my husband and I start talking she would start coughing like crazy and this goes on all the time when I'm home. Then when we're having dinner she only wants to be the one taking to him if he say something to me by the time I can respond she cuts me off start talking to him so now when she do that I walk out the room. He have a brother it's only two of them so I told him let the brother come every other weekend and stay with her so we can get a break. She fuss about it asking why we need to go away for a weekend we have a place in pa she lives in the Bronx. I used to let him go twice a month to pa to relax but it's getting too much for me now. I love her but she don't appreciate anything her other son is the one she talk about all the time bc I guess he's a DA. My husband did 22 years in the military but u never hear her talk about him all she do is complain about him also when he's the one taking care of her my brother in law wife been in the family for 30 years and don't come over not once to help with her and my mother in law take care of her children when ther were small I'm so overwhelmed with this don't know what to do. My husband and I start arguing over this situation. We just got married last year September haven't gone on a honeymoon. Which I do understand she needs someone around but for now it would be nice to get away twice a month as we ask his brother he came three times and that's it now he makes excuses when we have to go what can I do I don't want to fight with my husband I love him very much but I can't take no more I know he loves his mom a lot. Please help me with this.