I am 71 years old, a widow and also an only "child", caring for my 100 year old father in my home. He is in full possession of his mental faculties and still does some things for himself such as bathing and dressing, though it takes him forever to do so but he won't accept help. Basically, though, my life belongs to him. I cannot be gone overnight or even out on an evening because he goes to bed so early and there are a number of things I have to do for him to get him ready for that. He could go to the best nursing home in the area which is for veterans only and has a sterling reputation. If I mention it, he starts crying and saying he would rather be dead. Meantime, my stress, frustration, and resentment are growing every day. I guess I'm looking for ideas to make him accept that I cannot keep this up. Oh, closest other relative is 200+ miles away.