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I'm looking for an assisted living facility but I live in the middle of nowhere and we don't have that kind of money. My grandmother has been living with us and she makes life difficult for everyone including herself. She forgets everything and repeats things constantly which can be aggravating but I'm more concerned for her health and safety. She doesn't sleep at all. She takes quick naps maybe 5-20 minutes at a time throughout the day. I think she's afraid of dying in her sleep but she needs sleep. She's a hypochondriac, she thinks she has every illness and "psychedelic" phlegm. She is stubborn and refuses to leave my house or get help from any doctor, but I hear my name being called every 5 minutes because she needs something and can't stay on her feet for longer than 3 minutes. My mother is working double shifts in a full-time job so I'm looking for options myself. The major problem I'm running into is I don't know my nana's information to apply for any grants or her Medicaid information to apply to assisted living. If anyone has been through this, please help with how I can get her help.

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Not to make light of it… but ‘Psychedelic Phlegm’ has potential to be a band name! 😁😁
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You need to live your life and get out of this situation. Your mother needs to find a solution that does not involve you being the caretaker. Don’t wait.
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I would take her to the ER. When they try to discharge her, tell them she cannot go back to your house. They will find her a placement in a NH and the NH can get her info and get her on Medicaid. She is NOT your responsibility.
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Getting her to the hospital is the first step. She has mental problems and physical needs that you cannot help her with. Once she is at the hospital a social worker will be assigned and will lead you in the correct direction. Hopefully a POA is assigned and her daughter can take over for her. When it happened with my Daddy... my social worker really helped me a lot!
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You need the authority to place Mom, like POA. Your Mom has her Mom living with you and she doesn't know anything about Moms banking?

If you have no money and then either does grandma, then an Assisted Living is out of the picture. Medicaid does not pay for AL. Your grandma seems to be passed an AL anyway. So it would be Longterm care with doctor claiming grandma has Dementia and/or needs 24/7 care. There is a 5 yr look back in most States so u will need 5 yrs of bank statements. She is living with you so she has no house. If all she has is Social Security and a pension, the application should be fairly easy as long ascshe is under the income cap. You will need to know if she has any insurance policies, IRAs, 401k, CDs, ect. If someone has POA, this is fairly easy to find out if all her financial stuff is in one place.
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Who has Power of Attorney?

Do you work outside the home?

If grandma is so feisty and "independent ", you should find employment and leave her to her own devices.

If she falls, call 911 and have her taken to the ER, evaluated for placement and placed.

It seems to me that you are enabling her by staying at home with her.
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