My father is 83 years old, a heart patient and won't slow down. He still continues to run a 210 acre ranch with cattle, tractors and haying machines. He will not admit he is no longer capable in handling these responsibilities. I end up each evening after work tring to finish the daily chores and messes he gets into. The past four months he has nearly burned the garage down, received two broken rips from a wild cow charging him, broken more equipment and tools to list but continues to spend money like there is no tomorrow. He has completed depleted his savings of over $80,000 dollars in five years. Buying a new pick truck with payments and a new tractor with payments plus other farming machinery he does not need. He baled hay to sell the last two years, only to sell it for less than what he has invested. I two have broken my arm, my fingers and a foot while working for him on the ranch. I am a 53 year old woman with a full time job. And frankly I am scared to help for fear I will get hurt again. If he buys anything new, it soon breaks or is a "piece of crap" because it is not the miracle item it claimed to be. I get no help or sympathy from my only living brother and my husband is resentful of the time I spend with Dad. Today I have not accomplished anything at work for worrying about the call I received this morning from Dad. The dog got into something and tore it up and he was angry and ended up hanging up on me. There is not a day go by, that I don't shutter and look at the caller ID on the phone worrying about what he has screwed up or threw across the yard. This has been going on for five years. I sold me big house across county and built a small apartment across the road from Dad so I could help him. He is mostly independent, but must call me three and four times a day at work to tell me what he has done or how he is feeling or he will stop buy my work at least once a day and I must go by every night after work before I go home. I feel like I have no life. By the time I get home, it is 7 or 8 o'clock and I am exhausted and even then he will call me at least another 2 or 3 times before bed. My house is a mess, my yard is a mess, my work is becoming a mess and I am financially a mess. My hole life is a mess. I can't do anything at home with out him calling to have me come help get the horses back in because he left the gate open or help him cook or install a light fixture. I have stayed home to clean the house or pay the bills and not tell him I was off so he wouldn't bother me but he lives across the street and sometimes watches the house with binoculars. I have tried setting guidelines and bounders but then he calls with an emergency and I am right back over there. Or he calls because something or someone made him mad and hangs up on me. My life is a mess and I don't know how to stop this cycle. I want him to sell everything and buy a small house closer to town but he won't have that. I am at my wits end. Does anyone have any suggests?
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