I live together with my parents. I take care of my mom literally 24/7. I am not just a companion and perform round the clock skilled nursing duties. In addition, I do all the cooking, cleaning, household duties, dishes, vacuuming, coordinate doctor appointments, therapy, dad's cancer visits, pay bills and the list goes on and on. I do not get a wage for what I do other than see my mom thrive against all odds. My father is a complete hothead who I believe in my core that he has some mental illness, perhaps dementia. He is horrifically abusive, is losing cognitive abilities, yells and screams making the environment stressful. She has had 4 brain surgeries, infections and if I wrote all of what happened to her, would take up the remaining characters to type! He contributes NOTHING to her hands on care and refuses to see that at age 39, if you don't want to hire respite care once in a while for me, there should be some backup for a few hours per week. The real problem is that APS, 911, social workers and doctors have been involved with this situation and although they feel it's an unsafe house, the fact that I am there makes it alright! My father kicks people out of the house because they find a need for change and he doesn't like that. We have a very dangerous bathroom setup for my mom and she will definitely fall, not if, but when. He refuses to change the whirlpool tub to a standard tub. When the visiting nurse who comes once a month made a comment and the physical therapist made a suggestion after seeing us get her into the shower, he kicked them out yelling and screaming and quite frankly not even processing what they were telling him correctly. I cannot live in these conditions and if I am not there, NOBODY will take care of my mother. My delusional father cannot even assess her needs, how could he provide for her? He doesn't know how to do ANYTHING for her! I have tried to get him evaluated for possible Dementia or Alzheimer's, but every attempt backfires. It is truly h*ll on earth for me and I really just want peace to be able to care for my mom. I gave up my life and saved her from death for this reason. Is there a way to make someone step in who has the authority to assess and mandate changes for the good of this situation?