Last night she said she was tired so she went to bed around 8:30 she woke up around 11:00. She has Dementia. I told her that it is still night time not morning and tried to get her back to bed. She started making up the bed and getting angry, So I left her alone. Then she came out the room confused talking about things that didn’t happen, swearing and saying that we think she’s an idiot. My daughter and I tried to find out what she was actually feeling, but it only made her angrier, So we just left her alone. Now I said good morning to her and I can tell that she is still upset. What can I do?
Her tastebuds would be awakened by the spoon full of applesauce and that might get her going on her breakfast is what I'm thinking.
I just hope you find some way that works for you soon.
Otherwise, make sure that you get a geriatric psychiatrist or psych trained PA or NP on mom's team.
Meds can't cure dementia but, at least for my mom, antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds made a huge difference in her quality of life.
Go with the flow and try to redirect behavior that is upsetting to you or her.
This is not going to get better it will get worse.
The question is will you be able to care for your mom as well as your daughter?
And if your daughter goes off to school will you be able to care for your mom by yourself?
Is your house such that you will be able to handle her as more and more mobility issues come into play? Walkers and wheelchairs are much better without carpeting. Carpeting is also a potential trip hazard as are area rugs. Most normal wheelchairs need wider doorways. Just a few things to think about.