My parents (82) just moved in with us. My Mom's hearing is poor and my Dad's eyesight is poor due to macular degeneration. Mom's kitchen safety is terrible (licking the peanut butter off a knife & putting it back in the jar for more, using the same fork for raw eggs as getting butter or jelly from the container....... I'm fearful for all of us in the house yet I don't feel comfortable telling her she has to stay out of the kitchen. This is only the tip of the iceberg but its the most crucial to our health. She has constant temper tantrums if anyone disagrees with her opinion, slams doors, cabinets, microwave, etc. She interrupts all conversations (even when I'm on the phone to ask who I'm talking to and why is it taking so long) forcing me to end the call and call the person back later. She won't read her mail.... just wants to throw it away or slam it down in from of me to handle immediately. My boundaries are constantly being challenged. I believe she has all the early signs of Alz but I'm sure I can't being it up right now. She starts with a new doctor the 1st week of October and I wonder if its out of bounds for me to talk to the doctor before she goes in. Part of her problem is she drinks 8-10 cups of coffee a day. We've just moved back to the east coast after being out west for 30 years so this area is new to me also. I feel really lost and don't want to become so wrapped up in the 'caregiver" roll that I rot away.