How can I convince my husband to wear disposable underwear?

Might be worth switching to a different brand, and seeing if they fit and feel better?

When I was browsing for incontinence care supplies I noticed many major brands offered free trial samples. Why not have a look and see what's available?

I haven't personally tried them so I can't comment on whether your husband is being a fuss-pot or not. But I must admit it used to cross my mind to think we should all be required to wear anything we recommend to others, just to see how we like it.

In my defence - I DID put myself in the Hoyer lift and swing myself around in it before I used it on mother. But that was actually quite fun, and pads are not of course...

It’s a real hang up for many men because wearing Depends (etc...) is not masculine in the WWII - Korea - Vietnam war set who were raised to maintain masculinity and the societal mores of the times. I am unfamiliar with any specific disposable underpants designed for men. Probably online shopping at Amazon, Walmart, Target, Dollar General etc might have pants designed to fit male contours and not show beneath trousers.

I am just recovering from some of the most virulent diarrhea, along with vomiting, fever, dehydration, inability to eat anything heavier that clear liquids. I’ve been very sick and the doctor just says ‘stomach flu’. In dispair my husband picked up a new Depends called women’s panties, maximum absorption, no tapes but pull up and pull down, I’d say these Depends are comfortable and look like a little ‘girdle-ette’.

But women spend a good portion of our lives using products for their various bodily functions. I was thrilled my DH thought of this, I was delirious and so sick I couldn’t stand without help. The poor man mopped the floor repeatedly because I had no control at all. This was a first for me: my wearing of Depends and having no control over diarrhea and vomiting violently!!!

Let’s shop online and see what’s available. I certainly hope your DH has a temporary sickness and this isn’t something new and permanent!

Doglover35, you need to do what my Mom did after she got so tired of trying to get the stains off the rugs.

So the next time Dad had an "oops" she handed him the cleaning products and he had to do the cleaning. After a couple of times of Dad doing the cleanings, I noticed Mom had on her grocery list "Depends for Dad" :)

I want to thank every person that gave me his/her advice. All the suggestions are worth considering, especially the ones about finding another style or brand of disposable underwear. Thank you so much.

It seems to me it's time for him to be in a facility.

Other posters with more experience might have better suggestions.

I do have experience wearing such products. They are not comfortable -- at least the ones I tried were not. But leaking out of cloth undies is not comfortable, either! If I had to wear these permanently I would experiment with various brands, styles, and sizes. But I would ultimately have to choose the least uncomfortable. Not using any would not be an option.

My husband preferred the security of disposables to the possibility of embarrassing accidents. Doesn't your husband get embarrassed at leaking? I wonder if having him do the cleanup would drive the point home?

This is just a thought....I wonder if it would help to change the style of underwear to a boxer-brief? You know, the kind that come down the thigh like boxer shorts, but fit snug around the torso and legs? At least that might help keep the waste from dripping/oozing out the leg hole edges of the underwear, and it would still be "real" underwear that he could wear with a pad. I know you can get them fairly long (I think they're labelled "long leg boxer-briefs").  You'd still have to wash them of course.

I know with my mom, the biggest problem with fecal leaks has been where it comes out the edges of the leg hole. Fortunately I'm getting better at staying on top of changes, and she actually now prefers the Depends Fit-Flex to having a big bulky pad in her underwear.  She says they feel like real underwear. 

I agree that we women are more used to the indignities of "down there," from the time of our first menstrual period!

This is how I did it with grandma. Instead of washing her regular underwear, I threw it away. Pretty soon, there was no longer any regular underwear. So I started giving her diapers. It was really touch and go there for a couple of years but now she's pretty much surrendered to the fact that that's the only thing she gets. Still there are issues. Sometimes she just doesn't wear any. Other times she will expertly rip out the absorbent pad and only wear the mesh lining that's left. This used to happen a lot. Now it's somewhat rare although it still happens.

It did help a lot with compliance when I switched from maxi absorbancy to moderate. I'm thinking about switching even further down to minimal since she's still pretty much continent with only the occasional accident.

I want to thank every person that gave me his/her advice. All the suggestions are worth considering, especially the ones about finding another style or brand of disposable underwear. Thank you so much.

Here is a search on US Amazon for them....looks like there are some fairly long ones now.  You might need to sew the pouch closed, if he's leaking that way too....it looks like there might be a couple of styles with no opening, too.

amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=long+leg+boxer+brief