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Keeping it simple is the key here, so try that with your Mom. Let the Attorney [get an Elder Law Attorney] ask your Mom questions and let him/her tell her what is needed.
Remember, we are just the kids, and what do we know? :)
Affidavit forms are available at no charge from www.Idaho Legal Aid.org and here's a link to the Idaho statute: https://legislature.idaho.gov/statutesrules/idstat/title15/t15ch3/sect15-3-1201/
To non-Idahoans who read this, Idaho is not the only state that allows "small estate affidavits," but different states have different total estate limits for using this very easy process.
What is her reason for not wanting to prepare her Will? Without knowing that it is hard to recommend a strategy. I know my Dad thought that talking about a Will was morbid and he was in denial about needing one. Homes in two countries, a trust, and legacy issues from my grandmother's Will. Eventually my brother convinced him to do one up.
Alva has given you good advice.
Just tell her that if that is what she WANTS, then well and good. Don't do anything. And tell her that this is the LAST time you will discuss this with her. That if she wants to make her own decisions it is easy enough to privately see a Lawyer and set up her own will.
If after that your Mother still wishes to make no will, then there is no way you can convince her otherwise. Some elders have so much denial they think that addressing this makes it happen. Some old cultures think that these things, wills and inheritance are death wishes and I remember this well as in training the hospital I worked with had many old country Greeks who felt that speaking of insurance was wishing for the person's death. You will then know that the hospitals will likely look to the next of kin for POA/conservatorship, and the estate will go to probate with an assigned executor in the family. That's that. You honestly don't want all your last conversations with your Mom to be about "WHEN YOU DIE...........". So say it once, then leave it be. Pushing at her will only back her into her corner.