If anyone has personal experience with their elder parents (my Dad and Mom, 79 and 76), I would appreciate any suggestions you may have in how to best help them! My Dad has always worked hard and my Mom always supported him in all ways. My Dad lost his business 20 years ago and went through a lot of changes, including high depression, prostate cancer, losing another business, their home, and now having to care for my Mom 24/7. However in the last year, he has shown himself inept at her care. I lived with them for the past 5 years of all this and it has become clear that he is overwhelmed, grieving, and angry at me and my siblings for helping her move away from him. He threatened to report us to the police and we ended up giving her back but things have increasingly gotten worse for my Mom. For almost a year now, I've been living close by but not with them anymore. My Dad's control over her has been horrendous, he has medical power of attorney of her and keeps her medicated in an attempt to maintain her anxiety level. Recently, though, she is refusing to take even these. Now for the past week he's involving his new renter and the police, asking them to come in and force her to take the medications. In the last year, I haven't seen her for more than an hour at a time, and never without my Dad's presence. I've been so worried this past week as he's begun correspondencia by end-all again and completely isolating Mom from us, especially me and my sisters. He hasn't allowed any phone calls or visits in this last week and I'm so worried that he'll put her in a home, hidden from us, or worse that she'll die without any of us around to let her know that we love her!