How can I apply to be a caregiver for my elderly parents, while being paid?

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I live in LA, but my parents in bakersfield. How can i become their caregiver.

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They needed to plan their retirement and you need to plan yours. Don't give up your own life because they made poor choices. NO you will not get paid by Medi-Cal so any payment has to come from them. DON'T believe any promises of inheriting houses or bank accounts, because if they end up in a Nursing Home, their assets will be used up.
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If a parent was able to have their own career, why can't the grown child be able to do the same.

I remember when my Dad asked me to resign from my career so I could drive him and a Mom all over hill and dale because they stopped driving. I asked my Dad did he resign from HIS career to care for his parents? Of course I knew the answer was no. He never asked me again.

The way I look at it, since my parents refuse to move to a retirement complex and wish to remain in their single family home, then THEY need to take on the responsibly of their choice. I will help when I am able to do so. Otherwise, when the time comes where they need more help, they either pay someone who is a certified Caregiver or they move to a more elderly friendly environment.

If I did give up my career, who is going to take care of me since I was never blessed with children... thus the reason I have to keep on working to grow that retirement fund.
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You are dammed if you do, and dammed if you don't! It's impossible to work full time and care for an elder parent. Especially if they need near 24 hour care. I had the career of my life. Very extremely happy, and planned to retire from the company. I was the happiest ever in my life. The first 2 things I loved have always been my Mom and Dad. They've always been my best friends as well as parents, and have always re.ained #1. My career, that I loved so very much had also always been number one, but parents needs always came first over all. The career I had was extremely very flexible and accomodating. There is NO career or job that can handle being put aside for family leave. My other siblings always had an excuse to not be there for mom & dad. They've had there own lives and still do. After dad passed away, and Mom decided to sell out, we started hearing from people all the time, along with their needs and wants. They had no problems coming around with they're hands out. When I'd always remind that Mom needs someone to be there with her while I'm at work, they seemed to always be busy and simply had no time. After a few family members came around with their hands out, I told them to do what it takes to have there needs fullfilled......to work several jobs if they had too because Mom's retirement money will not be used for anyone else's wants or needs but moms.
Big big mess. I care for my mom 24/7 and we are still best friends. The rest of the family hates me because I don't give them mom's money. I'm a very loyal and true friend and son. I've been called every name in the book. It's amazing how, adult children think and assume they are entitled to the parents money when they are not. Several of my siblings don't even work and still want mom's money but don't want to help care for her or anything. It sickens me. I love my Mom and my dad.
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With the Cash & Counseling Programs they also do pay for a certified caregiver from an Agency to come to the home so that the grown child, who was doing the caregiving, can get back into the workforce to add to his/her own retirement and get company sponsored health insurance, 401(k) contributions, vacations days, sick days, etc.

We need to stop history from repeating itself from generation to generation where a wonderful grown child is willing to take care of his/her parent but doesn't realize until it is too late that they themselves don't have enough to retire on... thus will be moving in with their own grown child.
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There is a program from as the Cash and Counseling Program, which provides direct payments to caregivers of Medicaid beneficiaries.

It isn't available in all states but this is the only way that you can be paid as a caregiver I know of.
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Vast majority of grown children do not get paid for caring for their parents unless the parents themselves pay the grown child from their own retirement fund. You would need to set up an employment agreement.
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Because of the few bad caretaking children all the rest of us suffer because of all the laws. Unless Calif. offers something or your parent is a Vet I have found it impossible. My parent even has long term but will not help because I live in same household. I have heard Medicaid may offer a few pennies but your parent can not have any savings and I believe the rule is same you can not reside in your house or you in there's. Best option contact Dept of Aging in your state and good luck.
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