My parents are 81 and 82...recently my mother had to have bowel cancer surgery and came through it fine, no chemo or radiation. She developed bacterial pneumonia which she caught in the hospital...when she recovered she was put in transitional care for rehab so she could get strong enough to go home. She refused to eat and have physical therapy or even let them turn her to prevent bed sores. The insurance finally said they would no longer pay for her to be there as she was refusing the help she needed to be able to go home. My father put her in a very nice adult foster home. She is very angry and verbally abusive to him as he thinks he could take care of her at home. He is becoming very depressed and hurt about her attitude toward him. My father is 82 and there would be no way he could take care of her...she isn't walking at all. I am worried that she will wear him down and he will try to take her home to care for her himself. I live in another country and am not able to be there at this time. Any help in how he could deal with her wanting to come home would be appreciated. My mother can be difficult in the best of times . Feel so bad for my father.