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My dad had a horrible accident my mothers in the nursing home, they revoked me as DPOA, NOW WANT ME BACK. Well at least the keys are going away and no more driving for dad! He didn't hurt anyone else thank God! My mothers been in the nursing home since she left the hospital 3 weeks ago. My dad revoked me as DPOA then put his crazy sister in charge. When my mother found out that's what she signed she was not happy, but they both had not business signing any legal documents. I reported the attorney to the Supreme Court of the Virginia State Bar, they are looking into this. The attorney lied about speaking with my folks doctors. My dad is in bad shape before this and now I hold that attorney responsible for not intervening calling me, or trying to help my dad instead this attorney caused a huge mess. I was told that the attorney and my fathers 2 sister were told if they couldn't act like adults they will be escorted from the building by security. The hospital Risk management will not recognize this shyster attorney to be my fathers attorney, nor would they except my dads crazy sisters as his new DPOA. It's been more insanity, I'm done with my fathers side of the family, they didn't even have the decency to call me about my fathers accident the neighbor called me papers piling up on the porch they called 911. He was found wandering the streets God that broke my heart to hear this. What a mess, I still haven't recovered from my last visit up there, and still don't have work. There's the house the bills are a wreck again due to my fathers paranoia moved his checking account money. The sisters didn't even call me about my dad. I'm going to have to go back to Virginia close up the house sell everything, I have a house of my own who's going to pay my mortgage and bills while I'm doing all of this for them?

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if a public executor can charge a fortune for their often unwanted services its hard for me to comprehend why a family member shouldnt recieve compensation for the same task .
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Zoolife, is mother in a nursing home for long-term care, or is she a transitional care unit (often housed in a nursing home) for rehab care? Is Medicare paying for it? Then it is temporary. Is she paying herself? Is she on Medicaid?

Would this be a good time to move them to a care facility near you? Since it doesn't seem that they are going to be able to keep their house anyway, perhaps they will not be as resistant to that idea now.

You need to "charge" your parents for "personal care services" while getting their affairs straightened out. See an Elder Law attorney to do this correctly.
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Zoolife, what would happen if you said to your parents that they have a choice, either they come stay at facility in Texas close by you and you will manage their care OR they stay where they are but will have to likely have state guardianship since your aunt won't act for them? Are they still competent enough to understand they should take what is behind Door #1?
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Leave it to the courts, dad is headed for a nursing home himself. Wandering is late stage dementia activity. The judge will appoint a guardian for him who can dispose of the assets. Hopefully he will get in to a facility with mom. You are too far away to be running back and forth. Be thankful the evil twin sisters are not calling you every day to stir the pot.
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Your folks have put you through the wringer. I think you either need to move to VA or move them to TX ASAP. Otherwise you'll be driving back and forth forever. You need to get your life and their life settled down as quickly as possible. And have your parents' pay you for your work, because if I recall correctly, your folks have some financial security. Good luck and keep us posted.
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I'm going to be going back to Virginia mother is in a transitional nursing home. However this care facility has assisted living. My dad will be transferred to the transitional then assisted on the same property. What a horrible mess this is. I have a home in Texas that I'm very comfortable here. I've looked at only one home here in Texas, but I will have to be up there to before I can figure this out. I'm in prayer over this all it's way to much for me to handle myself alone. I have no siblings, husband or children of my own so it's counting on the kindness of friends and strangers. If I think about what 's ahead of me it's very overwhelming the drive alone, Tennessee's beautiful but a long state to drive through, all and all it's 18 hour drive. Found out today my dads truck totaled had he been going any faster he could have been decapitated dear God! He's 88 years old dementia, diabetes survives this horrible almost death, what next. Before this we had stopped speaking due to dads ranting but I never saw this coming God I'm not going to kick myself or feel guilty, but I must say I feel the presences of a higher power working in my life right now more and more, I choose to call Father God!
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blannie your right the ringer is it, I'm exhausted just thinking about what's ahead of me. This has altered my life completely just not sure how at this point, I'd like to say and I want to believe it's all going to work out for the best. I will have to drive back in the next few days I'm dreading this A LOT!!!! My dad's getting a psychiatric evaluation this evening he's in really bad shaped! Got pictures back today of dads car it's totaled, he's got dementia diabetes and tortured by his mind yet survives a serious accident must me something good that's suppose to come out of this. I feel nuts for saying that but I just have to believe something wonderful has got to happen at some point. I really hate to leave my little home to go back there, but I can't walk away like my aunt did, she just left town with her new little title DPOA having none nothing to help them!
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Hello Bermuda, My father was profound incompetent today by the hospital psychiatrist. I gave the doctor the history he thanked me because it helped him as it's obvious this has nothing to do with his sugar levels, infection, or dehydration as these systems have all cleared. Still waiting on the test to come back on mother, she is to be discharged 12/3/2013 to where I have no money as my hands are tied being revoked as DPOA and MOA. Mother wants be to take over. I spoke with yet another attorney that tells me I need to file for guardianship on them. Will I don't understand if my mother is found competent enough my mother can't have this attorney draw up papers for she and my dad both. Since my fathers sister left the scene and will not respond it defaults to mother. This is a God awful mess, I don't trust any of those attorneys at this point. And in Virginia if you file a complaint against an attorney then they fell they've been wronged due to that complaint the attorney can file a civil suit against the claimant. They don't do this in Texas they actually police the attorneys here. I'm fed up but I can't leave them like this. I spoke to another attorney he wants me to file for guardianship, but believes it will be contested. WHO IS GOING TO CONSTEST THIS AND WHY THEY ARE MY PARENTS FOR GOD SAKE! If he thinks that attorney will contest my filing for my parents why would this crazy attorney do this their my parents! Any thoughts!
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