Mom lives next door, is in ok health for her age, some dementia, takes antidepressent Prozac, hard of hearing but refuses to try a hearing aid, has isolated herself socially in spite of our efforts to keep her in touch with friends beyond letters and the phone, doesn't drive. Becomes enraged easily, often unexpectedly, and her pressure soars. Like her newspaper is late, my kids are too loud, there's nothing good on tv, someone wronged her 50 years ago, misplaced something, politicans, news, weather, etc. Dr is afraid med will lower her too much as it's normal when not angry. (increasing risk of falls) If I take her to the ER when it spikes, I'll be there every day. She doesn't believe she has a problem. Anger management is for other people with anger issues, not her. After all, if I just do everything to keep her happy all the time, problem solved. Um... I am mom to 3, and her caregiver. (my husband is patient and helpful - keeps me sane) I try to calm and redirect her but I am stressed, fearing for her health, plus her anger and negativity upsets me terribly. Yes, I take it personally, no matter how illogical. I hate that I cringe whenever she walks in my door (daily), wondering if she'll be friendly or clenching her fists, shaking, furious at some perceived slight. I watch her like a hawk for signs of a stroke, etc.