I am guessing that in all forms of domestic abuse, that much of it goes on and is perpetuated by a lack of willingness from victims to report their loved ones as abusers. So this has to be a common problem for many families. My mother-in-law has been financially and emotionally abused by my brother-in-law for many years, which has impoverished her. He's making a play for the last of her worth, the remaining equity in her home. He's already had her take out a 2nd mortgage and a line of credit which has led to her living in dire poverty, and the list goes on from there, which will mean she will be unable to care for herself. My husband's father was brutally emotionally abused by the same abuser as he was terminally ill, not to mention the financial abuse that caused him to lose his home in his time of need. My mother-in-law is now 80 and should not have to endure this fate as well. The elder abuse hotline lawyer told me, "It's not illegal to choose to be stupid." There has to be a better way to prevent and stop elder abuse than simply saying "The victim made her bed, so let her lay in it." Any successful stories of advocacy out there?