Ok folks, here’s one for you:)
Another close family member passed away early in the year:) One trustee is having a very hard time moving forward. I am trying to help the other trustee get trustee number one moving on the estate distribution. Nothing has happened to date... nothing. It is just a whole lot of work looming above everyone’s heads.
They are siblings with T1 holding more of a control position in the relationship. Gets very belligerent if he even feels pushed and has a very skewed sense of how much “work” he does. (I.e., “I’ve been working all day on this” when, in fact, he thought of it for 30 minutes, pulled out paper and pen, then proceeded to drink beer and watch tv.) He is in his 70s and exhibiting beginning signs of dementia, which is making this even worse.
T2 is working to get this done as T2 still works and neither he nor I have time for this. (I currently am part of handling estates or caregiving for 4 different people. I am so burned out on death/dementia, lol.)
T2 is working on boundaries, which is good. But, there is hoarding involved, and we are wondering if this is just going to go on forever if T1 just procrastinates.
Luckily, or not, some of my mother’s things are still in the house (she lived in the house and died unexpectedly last year... while caregiving... some of you may remember my story) and I have to finish getting those out so I can’t be shut out of the house. T1, so far, hasn’t been a problem with that.
Attorney, T2, and I are trying to focus the cleanout effort on getting out what is most important, THEN dealing with throwing out etc. to try to help T1 not feel so overwhelmed with having to decide what to toss.
Then, the house will have to be sold “as is” because it is a wreck. However, T1 thinks everything in it and the house itself will go for lots of $... nope.
Has anyone had experience with this? Is there a way to push things along without a legal forcing of the situation? Trying to preserve relationships, if possible.