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I have an 27 year old special needs daughter born with Trismony 21 Down Syndrome at birth now has intracable seizures, ADHD. My daughter has been having a bad stye on her eye. I hate to say now a while as of today its starting seems to be getting better there is still a little swelling, I cannot drive. Yes I can call 911 but I cannot get us home I have no money to call a Lyft.
She has Medicaid for her health insurance.


Her doctor did call in some eye ointment for her but the drugstore we now deal with have told me they would be mailing it out along with other prescriptions. I have her medicines delivered have not came yet thank goodness I went to Walmart and got some ointment this drugstore gets on my last nerve I have just been stressed to no end because of not having no transportion or can depend on someone to take me when I am able I may still carry her because there is still a little swelling.

Ive never heard of the hospital / ER providing transport home or to another facility. You will need to arrange your own transport. Call a friend? CAll the county social services see if they have resources.
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JoAnn29 Nov 22, 2020
County resources usually want a window of about 48 hrs. And are only available during daytime hours.
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Thanks to all who answered my question for anyone asking why take her to the Er early part of this week her eye was real swollen yes I knew about the hot rags I had eye ointment which I brought at Walmart I had no money which I may of mentioned in my post for a Lyte ride.

The drugstore needs to stop lying about mailing out her prescriptions along with eye medicine her doctor prescribed that was the biggest problem I still have not got that medicine they get on my last nerve I am going to try and start using Walmart s pharmacy but only when I go there.
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Styes are clogged tear ducts and an old cure is still the best thing that I have ever seen.

Use a 14k gold ring, as wide as you have, rub that on denim rapidly back and forth, this will heat the ring up, do this until you can't make it any warmer, then you run the ring on the closed eye lid at the eye lashes back and forth from corner to corner. do this a couple of times and you should start seeing results overnight. If it has been going on a while, you may need to do it a couple of times to clear the blockage. it feels so good and really does work.

In the future do this as soon as it starts and it will not develop into a problem.
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National Down Syndrome Society
Telephone: 800-221-4602 (Monday-Friday, 9AM ET- 5PM ET)
Fax: 646-870-9320
Email: info@ndss.org
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
Thank you so much for the information.
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Not familiar with the special needs of your daughter, but I am aware that a seemingly simple infection can be serious in some individuals.

If this is the case, proceed with your emergency room visit, and just get her there. Worry about getting home at that time, because you do not want to delay treatment for her. Can you go to the nearest Urgent Care, which may be closer and have less people?

After this, contact the National or local Association for people with Down's Syndrome, and ask for referral in the future. Even an online support group for special needs may have resources for rides, or a person willing to give a ride.

How is your daughter, this many days later?

Since the weather is turning colder, you will need a solid resource for winter rides. Did you say that you "carried" her?
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
Me again her eye is getting better I see it still looks a little swollen thanks for all your information and not being mean.
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First call and see what kind of transportation medicaid will cover for the future. How do you normally travel to the grocery store or doctor appointments?
Does your daughter live with you?

My career was in a hospital and they did supply taxi vouchers for needy patients to get home but you have to ask. Call first to make sure. Ask to speak to someone from the hospital's customer service department or security if it is after normal work hours.

Secondly my household has suffered through plenty of styes. We use a hot tea bag squeezed out for a warm compress. It will open the stye and allow healing. Use a new tea bag every time. Do this 3 times a day if you can. Not giving medical advice just an old home remedy that really works.

Call to local churches in your area for occasional help. It sounds like you could use it whether its an appointment or errands like grocery shopping. I found my parent's and aunt's sitters from the Jehovah Witness Temple and I believe Catholic Charities or the Mormon church could possibly help.

God bless you
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
This is shyshy thanks for all your helpful advice.
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I assume the doctor's office was closed? Therefore, you sent her to ER?
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Why are you sending her to the emergency room for a stye on her eye? What do they think they are going to do? They will do the same things you can do at home and possibly write her a prescription. I don’t think it’s very wise to send her to the ER for this, it’s not an emergency and it’s not worth the risk of COVID exposure.
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They will find you transportation but at your expense.

Medicaid, as said, does supply transportation but you need to sign up for it. For my nephew, its a transportation company that Medicaid contracts with. You need to register with that company. Not sure if they would supply last minute transport though. You may have to give them 24 or 48 hrs. There is a fee and you can accompany her.

Senior bussing should allow a disabled person but again they may request 24 to 48 hr heads up. And again, there is a fee.

Where I live, there is a local bus that goes thru our small towns picking up and dropping people off on the main roads. Luckily my nephews Doctors are on or just off the main rd..

At this point, can you find a neighbor or friend to help? Someone talked about "nextdoor.com". I joined and its may be what ur looking for. You post you need or have something and you may get help.

I have a disabled nephew. I have been able to find a number of services to help him. The State has hooked him up with a Coordinator that helps him with the housing voucher every year. Used to stop in once a month but with the COVID calls to see how he is doing. I have also contacted the County Disabilities Dept for resources.

Calling 911 maybe a problem, too. You may not be able to go in the ambulance with ur daughter. Depends on the rules where u live.

So sorry for your predicament. It has to be hard.
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
JoAnn 29 thank you it is starting to look better then it did the first part of the week it was real swollen she has Medicad for her health insurance which provides transportion but now has another company for their van service that s for doctor ect appointments with this Covid I am doing appointments over the phone of all days Thanksgiving Eve have one online.
I have a chromebook and am hoping I can do it thank you so much again.
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If your daughter is on Medicaid, they will provide transportation for her.
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I would agree with (a) Send on not sending a daughter home alone in Lyft or Uber, especially now with the pandemic soaring, and with (b) Midkid on the assistance of Mormon women.  Others have made good suggestions as well.  

I took Lyft once, and that was enough.  Never again.  The woman was a terrible driver, cutting in and out of traffic.   I was glad we made it to the destination w/o an accident.  

Also, I do know that some hospitals provide vouchers; mine offered one when someone didn't show up to pick me up after surgery.
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
Hello its shyshy sorry for your bad experience with Lyte we have not had any issues since started using July of this year my daughter cannot travel by herself me or either her stepdad go along with her.
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How about the senior center bus?
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Do you belong to an online 'neighborhood' group? I do and it's a great place to find out who your neighbors are, what's going on around the 'hood and to ask if anyone has seen your cat. Basically, it keeps us connected!

One sweet young couple (no kids yet) have offered their services during COVID to run errands for people, etc. I'm sure they'd pick someone up from the hospital! Since both of the couple have had COVID, you can feel better about taking their help.

I hooked into MY 'neighboorhood online' through FaceBook. I wouldn't be surprised if you find a similar situation if this is available to you.

I know that I am happy to do what I can to help people, but I have to KNOW they need help. Perhaps you could put up a flyer at the local grocery store. Can you afford to pay them a little something? I'd do it for free, but for a teenager, they need to be paid a little bit.

I know you could reach out to the Mormon missionaries in your area. The boys couldn't help as they aren't allowed to be with women, alone, but likely you have sister missionaries and they have cars. AND they are REQUIRED to do some service each week. Just google 'Latter Day Saint Missionaries in my area' and you can get their info.
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My husband was provided a taxi home, paid for by a voucher from the E.R.
We were together, it was their idea.

I would not send daughter alone in a taxi, or with Uber or Lyft.

If you have been in touch with her doctor, the stye is improving, maybe you do not need the E.R.?

Were you also instructed how to use warm clean compresses on her eye?
Sterilizing the washcloth or throwing it away?
Changing her pillowcase daily? Scrubbing her fingernails, cutting them short.
Shampooing her hair daily?
Do you know how long it usually takes to heal?

Can you call the doctor back for advice?
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
Sendhelp I did email her doctor she did put in a prescription for some eye ointment but the drugstore which delivers her medications to her now they are a pain I have called twice they are going to mail that along with her prescriptions have not came yet I just need to learn to keep money in my Lyte account I have one neighbor I cannot say he would not give us a ride but he is in and out my cousin who lives downstairs she wont s gas money.
I was told by one of our other neighbors how she spoke on how we did not give her any gas money I now hardly speak to her unless necessary.
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Does someone help you to get in groceries? Do you have family in the area? You must get out to do normal activities of daily living in some way? Do you have a neighbor who would pick you up? I don't think that an ambulance would be paid for to get you home. Hope you will update us that you made it back home.
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5524shyshy Nov 21, 2020
AlvaDear I do go out and get grocies or order online now I do have family but my sister had a wreck few months back so she has no car she was alright now my nieces her daughter one she soon to lie and not show up call nothing the other one maybe my own cousin find out through another neighbor how she spoke on us not giving her any money we live in same apartment building she lives in apartment my sister youngest niece her kids lived in I now hardly speak only when necessary a shame.

I now use Lyte and need to learn I got to keep money all to it its looking better her eye still swollen some.
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No the ER does not provide transportation. Occasionally I my very small town, if a policeman happens to be be there they will give a ride.
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