My 85-year-old father has been in and out of the hospital and 2 different rehabs since Christmas Day. He had an infection in gallbladder and gallstones but they would not do surgery because he was too high risk at the time because of some kidney and heart issues so instead they placed a tube and drain. Moved to a terrible rehab (that's another post!) for 2 weeks where he continued to decline. I screamed and yelled something was wrong, no one listened even after 2 trips to 2 different doctors. Finally, last Weds, on the day it snowed 8" here in NC, I called my dad to check on him (also had daughter at home puking with stomach bug so between that and snow, I couldn't go see him) and he was slurring his words and severely confused. Also he'd been very lethargic, falling asleep mid-conversation and very weak, no appetite. Needless to say, the terrible rehab kept telling me he was fine but I listened to my instincts and had my husband go get him and take him to ER, where his BP was dangerously low and he was severely dehydrated. Turns out he was septic!!! So he spent several days in stepdown unit by ICU then moved to regular floor, total stay a week. Surgeon still refusing to do surgery (also another story for a separate post!) so kept tube in and have him on IV antibiotics - had to place picc line last night and finally we got him into a good rehab late last night, the one where he and my mom both were for several months after they both suffered strokes 2 weeks apart, 3 years ago. He's even in the same room and has one of his fave CNAs there. This is all good but the big problem is he has developed what the Dr. told me could be "hospital delirium." It is so, so bad. My dad is not my dad right now. It started on the first week hospital stay but was more confusion now it's full-blown delusions and argumentative behavior. He is convinced 5 people have been staying at his house and that he was there to see it and they are robbing it (my mom died a year ago and he lives alone), that the hospital rooms were his living room, it was his tv, that they did surgery and drilled holes into him, that he needs 8 blood transfusions. On and on crazy talk and he doesn't understand what the picc line is and what is happening to him. It is very distressing to witness and I don't know what to do. Please know before this initial hospital stay at Christmas he had NO dementia and no memory issues, very sharp, independent, driving, etc. I just had a p/t caregiver who cared for my mom thru cancer stay on and help him with things around the house, grocery shopping, meds etc. She is wonderful and this sudden cognitive change is distressing to her too. I have read it can get better but it may take weeks or may not get better till he gets home. But the dr also said sometimes it doesn't improve or it kicks off dementia that may have been underlying. My dad has Parkinson's (the kind that affects balance no shaking), Afib, T2 diabetes, previous stroke (he recovered completely from that), high BP, stage 3 kidney disease, so he has lots of issues but this latest episode has caused a severe decline and I am worried what will happen. I am worried this state of delirium won't get better. I am going to hire more caregivers for when he gets home but we'll run out of money for that in a year and he won't qualify for Medicaid b/c I didn't put his house in my name till 2.5 years ago. So worried about the future, if he makes it that long. And very worried about his quality of life, which for a month has been 0 and before this was wonderful. I am an only child btw and care for my dad just me and my p/t caregiver. Husband helps as he can but he has to help with my daughter when I am dealing with crises like this. It is taking its toll on me as well, I haven't slept a full night in weeks and I am stressed to the max. I am most worried about this delirium and if it will get better or what to do. Does anyone have any experience with their elder experiencing this type of delirium in the hospital? It happened very suddenly after the first few days and hasn't gotten better even though the sepsis is clearing and his WBC is back to normal. Any help is appreciated. Thank you.