A week ago, the Hospice/Palliative care nurse called me and said she had visited my mom several times. Mom has been under Palliative care for several months. Since Covid, I have only been able to visit Mom 2 times in person for a total of 30 minutes. She has declined significantly. Mom lived in the AL part of her facility until she was moved into the MC unit when she tried to leave, setting off the alarm four times in one day. She has adjusted well to MC. She has no idea where she is, doesn't know me anymore, has become double incontinent, finds comfort in her "baby" doll, and frequently falls, etc.
The nurse said she believes Mom will now qualify for hospice care. She also said that she doesn't believe Mom has "weeks to live." So I should not fear losing her in the immediate future. I understand that hospice intervenes when they believe the patient has six months or so to live. The nurse also said she would talk with the hospice doctor about my mom and get back with me. I told her I appreciate her suggestion, as I do want my mother to receive any care available. Mom was recently taken off of Xarelto because she had a severe nose bleed that sent her to the hospital. The nurse said that with my mom's late stage ALZ, her meds are probably no longer helping her. Mom takes a blood pressure medicine that the facilities PA increased from 5mg to 20mg. Mom had double bypass surgery in 2015 and has vascular dementia in addition to her ALZ. The likelyhood of my mom having a stroke or a massive heart attack are high without her blood pressure medicine. But at this stage, would it be a blessing to lose her sooner rather than to watch her suffer the end of this horrid disease?
One week later, I have not heard back from the nurse. Should I call her and ask for an update?