My father is 85, very frail (99 lbs) and has been in hospice care for eight months since moving from one assisted living facility to one closer to me home.
He is unable to eat and only can grunt to talk about his needs. I was taken in recently (COVID-19 lockdown) and sat with him for over 1 1/2 hours. I watched as staff spoon fed him shake and woke him up for meals in which he wanted to sleep through.
I have his Durable POA and the Main Hospice nurse has decided with the facility doctor (not the hospice dr.) that he be taken off all drugs (he has Schizophrenia). I disagreed and they said they are doing it anyway!
He has an Advanced Directive stating basically that he does not want prolonging life saving measures to take place at the end but also states that end of life is a vegetative state.
How long can my father live this way. I know it is not what his wishes are and feel the facility and the attending (and the associated) hospice are just prolonging his life to get another monthly check.
I spoke to the Director who says he has the right to decide and doesn’t care about POA or Advanced Directive.
I worry about the uncomfortable feeding or forced drinking and did see a suspicious red circle in vein on hand. Hopefully it was blood drawn for checking and not an IV.
What can I do now with COVID-19 restrictions and having his final wishes honored?