Recently my father was injured badly & his wife also got into a health situation & required Dr's order placement into secure memory care facility. I put my life aside for months to return home & help them through this intense situation. I got them stabilized in assisted living thankfully. However, my step-family, who has been basically absent for a decade (except for fun events or free lunches-did not attend family funerals), petitioned the court to get emergency guardianship & conservatorship of not only their mother but also MY DAD!!?! They have let my father & I do all the caring these past years for their Mom, they hardly ever visit & still never visit or do anything nice for their mom. I have a lot of this proof in writing too that they do not care. My Dad has had a hard many years, caregiving for his mother (my Gramma - who had dementia for 7yrs) and also for his brother too his whole life - my Dad & I were a TEAM for our families care, they both passed in last few years. The whole time his wife has also had A LOT of issues, but refused to go to Dr & nobody in her family cared to help her ever. Needless to say, Dad is not doing well & is also starting to show signs of dementia himself. So when the step-family sprung this on us, after an already INTENSE HEALTH EMERGENCY of both MY Dad & his wife, we then were forced to deal with a terrible court hearing situation, where they painted ME!?! as THE concern & that I was extorting money from MY FAMILY!??! After they KNOW how much I have put aside, I've helped almost a decade & have foregone having my own family because of the time I have given. These terrible step-children, that my family was NEVER close to, have now totally ruined my ability to care for my Dad in the way we had always planned. I wanted to move my Dad & his wife closer to me, they live 1,000 miles away. Nobody in our home state has ever helped them, except me who comes home 2x a year for weeks at a time.
Basically, we got the worst court appointed lawyer, even though my Dad has some $$ - Because the step-family uses the same financial advisor as my Dad, who is a terrible human being, so they all came up with this plan of doing Emergency petition for Guardianship/Conservatorship, so that left my Dad & I ZERO time to find a lawyer.
After a LONG back & forth hearing, we ended up signing an agreement -- I will be my Dad's Guardian, and a very expensive 3rd party was appointed conservator for both Dad/Step-mom & Guardian of Step-mom. The company is intense/curt & I'm constantly dealing with that now too.
I am so upset. It has effected every part of my being. I want to somehow find help, I need someone to help try to re-do the case, but I have no funds (especially after all the time I have spent away from MY life & work!!!) I have TONS of proof/emails of my aide/care (for YEARS) & them NOT. I also want to sue the financial advisor, he has extreme conflict of interest & he is STILL in charge of Dad's $$. It is SO creepy, all these people act like they CARE about MY Dad & wife. Initially the Financial advisor had his very spendy 3rd party staff that was supposed to be helping, but THEY were the ones who left the wife alone for 10days who has obvious dementia & then she landed in the psychward after being pit-maneuvered by the police when she was driving & should NOT have been (her family knew she should NOT be driving but THEY ALSO left her ALONE for 10 days). All these creepy people turned against ME & claimed I WAS THE PROBLEM!!?
Part of the agreement, I am now forced to give my Dad's health records to the ex-family- I'm worried they are doing this just to one day again use the big gun lawyers & get 2 steps ahead of me again, and to top it off, they use MY DAD'S MONEY to do this!?! This whole situation I feel has EXTREME 'moral turpitude' as the step-family perjured themselves too! I have proof, just need help. This all has shattered me, after so much I have given, to now be here is heart-breaking.