About 8 months ago my 87 yr old grandma suffered a broken femur due to a fall. After surgery she was put in a rehab center for 6 months. We were told to make some type of arrangements before the 6 months passed. She had such limited mobility and no further improvement in therapy so they said she could not stay longer. They said she either needed to be put in a nursing home or go home with 24 hour care. Grandma said no way to the nursing home and i dont blame her. Since gramdma still has somewhat decent amount in savings, medicare would not cover any kind of 24/7 services. My family and i had decision to make. We looked at prices of caregivers and there would be no way she could afford them. Shed maybe make it 6 months and then be forced to give her house up to a nursing home. She doesnt want that. I decided to step up. I am 30 with no children or other major responsibilities. So she gets released little over 2 months ago. Comes home and i move in to her house so i am there 24/7. Grandma is hard to get along with and can be mean but i still want to do everything i can. She needs help toileting, washing, changing, meals prepared and brought to her. Medicare covered for home visits twice a week physical therapy,occupational therapy and a nurse for 9 weeks so far. The physical therapist would give grandma "homework". She wanted her to get up and walk several times a day. Which is fine but she needs me to assist with a gait belt. Everytime i urged my grandma to walk she would get angry with me and say "ill do it later!" I was only able to get her to do it about twice a day after plenty of arguing. I told this to the physical therapist and she was mad. My grandma then blamed me saying when she wants to walk, i am downstairs. I do stay downstairs in downtime only because her television is so loud. And asking to turn it down is a whole other argument! I tell her if she wants or needs anything while im downstairs she can call my phone and she DOES. She calls if she wants me to put a blanket on her, if she wants lights turned up or down, if she needs to pee, anything and everything she's asked. But never ever has she called and said she needed help with walking therapy and when i suggested it she declined with anger. So she tells this girl that shes alone and i stay downstairs and wont help. I did admit that i do go down there for peace becsuse of the blaring tv and to catch up on some lost sleep since grandma doesnt go to bed til 11 pm and wakes at 4am for bathroom, insulin, and even wants breakfast at that time! So some nights are really hard if im not able to fall right asleep. Which a lot of times im not. Im up with anxiety and worry from this situation. The PT tells my grandma that if i am away from her and cant help her walk and cant do what she needs, then maybe she should get a new 24 hour caregiver! I said how? And do you have any phone #s of these agencies then? She said she will have the home nurse give me info. So the following week the home nurse confronts me asking if im quitting and why do i want the #s. I said "no i was just frustrated and a bit offended that the PT would give such an opinion when she is only in the house with grandma 30 mins at most" i told the nurse how i try to catch up on some sleep and that whenever grandma needs me she can call me. I said i am feeling sick from lack of sleep and if i get sick who will care for her?The nurse tells me "ha! No one gets sleep nowadays! Youre not even that old. You cant be very sickly. You seem more concerned with your wants/needs than hers. A true caregiver would be sitting next to her the entire day!" I told her ive tried that but the tv is too loud that it hurts. And im only downstairs til about 9 am then after that im in the next room from her. And also that grandma eats by my preparing and bringing food right to her about 4 times before i even think of eating once in the day! This nurse says she wants her care extended another 6-9 weeks eventhough all other therapy has not been extended. And on top of this criticism i thought before this incident that this nurse had been rather lazy and her visits were turning into gossip and tea time. But never would i have said or accused her of that! She gets up to leave and says "ill go ahead and extend my service. Ill see you beginning of next week. Oh honey! I hope you dont think youre being judged!" I totally know i am. So just wondering should i let anyone from her agency know of this? Or would that open up new doors of accusation? It is going to be reall uncomfortable now to see her knowing she thinks this of me.