I don't know where to start. A little over a year ago my father (83) was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer. In the last few months he has really started to decline. My mom, (65) is his primary caregiver. She is very overwhelmed. My father is now bedridden, he is at home right now a nurse comes in 2 times a week and he used to have an aide that came in 2 times a week but for some ungodly reason the nurse cancelled one of the days. Why would she do that? I'm dumbfounded. Especially when the social worker just told my mom she was going to up the aide to 3 times a week.
My father has recently started with Sundowners ( he is good all day long until the sun goes down then it is like a lightswitch).
I love my parents with all my heart, and would do anything I could for them. I feel horrible for my mom who is nearing her wits end. She feels like she will be failing my father if she "puts him in that place" (hospice facility).
I know there is something called respite care where they take him for 5 days so she can get some rest. Has anyone done this? I know she is afraid that if she lets him go, and he passes away she will feel like a failure. And she doesn't deserve to beat herself up.
I am there for her for whatever she needs. I just don't want her beating herself up on any decision she makes.