Mom's in the hospital on high-flow oxygen. She'll be coming home and starting home hospice, when and if she is able to reduce her need to 10 liters or less...she's currently on 40 liters. The hospice people at the hospital have been very understanding and supportive...and while they've told us what to expect logistically, but I'm not really sure what to expect emotionally. Mom's doctor says she probably has about 3 months left. We have a 25 year old special needs son at home and he's pretty high functioning, yet needs a good bit of help. We have two 13 year old dogs who are failing, and one of them needs put down...just haven't been able to find the time to do it, sigh. And another 19 year old son who is a young father and struggling hard to make ends meet for his gf and baby...we had to put them up for a few nights, but I simply can't keep them here. Space is limited and so is the space in my head, which is already spinning with this tornado of events and what everybody else needs. I'm trying to get an appointment with a counselor to help with my mental housekeeping, but that's another frustrating challenge as the VA is completely inept at getting me a counseling appointment within a time frame that will actually be useful. Family will be coming in and out, wanting to spend time with Mom, and there will be nurses and aides in and out at all hours...I'm just wondering how I'm going to cope with all the visitors and stress and interruptions. People tell me to take care of myself first, but it seems impossible. I know it's all going to be temporary...I don't mean to whine as I know this is the last chance I'll have to spend quality time with dear Mom. I hesitate to get away even for a few days (heck, hours) with her condition being what it is. I look forward to having help, but don't look forward to the intrusions (I'm pretty introverted and I need quiet time or I get over-stimulated, overwhelmed, irritable and depressed). I want to be the best me I can be right now, because I know my state of mind affects the care my mom gets from me...I don't want her stressed because I'm stressed...I guess my goal is just to manage my expectations and try to find a few pointers to keep myself from breaking down.