I've been caring for my 87 yr old widowed mom for 8 yrs now, but the past 4 yrs have been more challenging as she has mobility problems, using a walker/wheelchair. She has severe hearing loss and cataracts. Health and appetite is declining, she's at 93 lbs. My concern is that I do realize she needs in-home care at least part of the day, but refuses to let strangers into her home. We have gone round and round about this, yet she is adamant. Believe me, she can be very verbal, which upsets me. I've always promised her that I'd never move her into a nursing facility, as she's been in 3 times for short-term care. That was a nightmare. I don't have any siblings to help, only my husband when able, and 2 kind elderly neighbors. I've been disabled for 19 yrs, but do the best I can for her, which is pretty much all care needed. My husband's still working, but has had 3 cancer diagnoses in the past 3 years. We are getting at the age where we find we just can't help as much. Unfortunately, she doesn't have the funds for home health care or necessary health needs. Her insurance, like most, doesn't cover this. I've read so many articles to find help, it's overwhelming. Any ideas, suggestions, or help on how or who to ask for assistance would be so much appreciated. It's taken this long for me to finally realize I need to ask for help..and this is where I'm starting.