My BIL is in a NH half way across the country. We can't visit him. We get candy and gift cards for all his nurses each Christmas (they call and say we are the only family to do that). We send him cupcakes from his home area. He doesn't need/want clothes or books or crafts. He has been there for 8 years. He goes to the art and craft activities. We have offered to buy materials. He doesn't wear his dentures we got him. He does paint and I offered to buy art supplies.
He is in an electric wheel chair. I call and ask and he wants nothing. I feel bad. We send photos of our children. We are going to try to get to see him this coming year. Takes all day to get there and is not cheap. Once we are there we can take him out for the day. He has asked for us to visit. Not sure what else to do?