My dad is 83 with poor vision and dementia that makes it hard for him to follow the normal rate of speech. I have been meaning to ask this for a long time, and then we had a particularly bad night tonight, so I thought I better get my butt on here. He kept saying over and over that he doesn't want to live like this. He says he gets up and just sits around all day and then goes to bed, and to be honest, for the most part. it is true. I feel like I am sortof failing in that department as a caregiver. The only thing he really does around the house is pull weeds since he can do that by feel, but he says he feels totally useless. He used to enjoy TV and reading but can't follow the speech or stories any more. He still tries to do large print Sudoku but gets frustrated because he can never finish them. He is totally opposed to going on meds that would help his mood. Tonight I told him there are places he could go during the day for activities, and he said he didn't want to be around a bunch of other old people. :( I do put on old music sometimes but would like some other suggestions. Not to mention, the music is a bit of a crap shoot as sometimes he likes it and other time he ends up crying because it makes him think of my mom, who passed away 5 years ago.
What kinds of activities do they do in elder day care places? Ideas that would make him feel like he is useful would be particularly helpful.