Does anyone know of a hoarder that GIVES AWAY their substantially valuable possessions?
My mom had dementia and could no longer live by herself. We hired a local business with CNA’s to stay with her.
After mom passed, we started working on her house full of her “worldly possessions”. We noticed a lot of things missing from coffee mugs, to towels, pots, pans, clothes, shoes, coolers and even frozen food, as well as over 40K worth of jewelry that mom wouldn’t let me remove from her house to avoid this situation.
We asked the caregivers to bring her belongings back that they took without our permission.
One of them was calm and claimed she didn’t have anything. The other one got very nasty. A day or so later, the nasty one sent my sister a text telling her that she DOES HAVE some of my mom’s belongings that my mom supposedly GAVE her that she didn’t want me or my sister to have... My mom made me and my sister 50/50 beneficiaries of her estate.
A few days later, my sister got a text from the caregiver saying that if we wanted to talk to her, we needed to go through her Attorney! Now mind you, she hasn’t been questioned by the police, but has hired a Criminal Defense Attorney? Hmmmmm!
My mom never GAVE ANYONE anything of hers, EVER. She would ask me if I wanted anything in her house. When I would tell her about a specific item, she would tell me I could have it, BUT, it’s being used right now and I’d have to wait.
Every drawer, closet, nook and cranny had things in them. Now, they are all empty or half empty.
My mom had severe dementia and the very seasoned caregiver knew it was unethical to take anything from a patient, ESPECIALLY one cognitively impaired.
Most recent, the text messages on both my and my sisters phones that incriminate her, have been hacked.
We have filed a police report and they are investigating. Our phones are heading to the Forensics Lab Monday.
I need your help. Do any of you know a hoarder that gives anything away, especially things of substantial value? And do any of you know a hoarder that has empty drawers and closets?
I guess that sounds as crazy as this situation, but I need to convince law enforcement that this is a criminal case of elder exploitation and we need to dig deeper. The burden of proof is on me. Your input and experience with hoarders is not proof, but might be enough to make them press on with charges. If that fails, we’re heading to civil court.