Ok confusing question but the bottom line is, we have an agency we work with to have a few hours of help in the week. The agencies require various people to come into the house to check out grandma. We are ok with that but when the physical therapists, nurses and occupational therapists come into the house, they always make suggestions. Now some are helpful so I'm not say all isn't but others are just plain expensive and impractical. Our current occupational therapist handed us a catalog telling us that instead of buying used equipment or borrowing it, we should go out and buy everything again brand new. That I didn't consider helpful and in fact made me as well as my family feel that nothing we had was good enough. When others have come in stating various grab bars are helpful, that we needed to cut the tub to make it so she wasn't climbing in, that we needed two raised toilet seats so one can be placed in her bedroom near her bed as a port-a-potty so she wasn't walking so far at night, buying two lift chairs in each of the rooms she hangs out with in us, building a ramp on the outside of the house, redoing the outside steps to make the garage more accessible by having smaller steps, making transitions between carpet and hard wood floors bright colors so they are easier to see, moving the sink out of her bathroom and into her bedroom so she doesn't slip when using it, getting her a hospital bed so she is more comfortable (which didn't work as now my mom and I during our nighttime shifts end up sleeping in it since she's insisting on sleeping in her lift chair) and who knows what other changes have been made throughout the years.
My question is this though, when working with a paid agency who comes in and visits and with her social workers, are they able to go back and make complaints to someone that might result in us losing the ability to keep grandma in the house? Everytime someone complains or makes a comment we are so afraid they are going to turn us into someone who might make us lose the ability to keep grandma home. Is this possible? Has anyone dealt with this? We do the best we can and make any and all changes we can make to help her out but it appears to others this is still not enough. There is always better and more expensive equipment that should be bought and things we apparently are not doing right...
I was just making sure that people who enter the room cannot make any decisions about if she stays or if she goes.
If you are like me, I know the things my mother has trouble with and what works okay. For example, if a parent never leaves the house, what use is a ramp or redesigning the steps. Or if they don't have trouble with the steps, then why change? Before I did all the expensive modifications they suggested, I would just move my mother to a facility. That sounded like a whole lot of expensive changes.