She tells him how difficult she has it. She calls him to stop over. Something is wrong, she is 40 and he is 87. His wife has been gone for over 5 years.
She may have found herself a mark. Does dad have frequent interaction with friends and family or other community? Do you go over or have him over for dinner daily? weekly?
Age and loneliness can make a person very vulnerable.
When we pop over when she's there, she becomes very uncomfortable. It's very noticeable. Hopefully with our presence she will get the hint. We wouldn't be having this conversation if she was more his age.
im 56 yrs old , male , saving money now so i CAN spend it on hors and riotous living later . now this post worries me that my kids will try to harsh on my buzz when im 80 ..
We live right across the street from him. We have my FIL over for dinner or stop in to sit and chat. My BIL also has my FIL over for dinner too. I think all of the suggestions are spot on. We have ran a background check, we have had the conversation about being appropriate. He is not going to the cemetery like he was. Not going out with friends as much. We can watch her coming and goings....when she pops in, someone stops by just so she knows we are very much aware of her visits. I have had the conversation with him about scams too. It's very difficult to watch this happen right in front of us
Don't assume someone his age wouldn't take advantage as well. My mother in law was almost taken advantage of my a con man her age. Work his way into her friendship and then went after her for her assets. And like you guys she had kids "popping" in all the time and checking on her. She finally was forced to take a hard look at this guy. But it was not easy. It took four great kids, two priests and the Dade County Police to convince her this man was a con artist.
May I ask why you are not having a conversation with this woman??? Let her know out front what your concerns are.... and that your dad will be protected at all costs.... I guess I am confrontational and would not play all these games and just confront the situation.....if she is up to something, letting her know your concerns will most likely make her disappear...... good luck...
MG . . . I doubt most people thought that. Your post didn't come off that way at all. As I stated in an earlier post, I'd be concerned as well. There are way too many sharks in this world. Heck, all you have to do is read on this forum, and you'll get an ear-full. They're out there. She is acting suspicious.
Age and loneliness can make a person very vulnerable.
Good luck and keep your eyes and ears open.
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