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For me, I needed the reassurance that I was doing the right thing and that I wasn't letting them live in an unsafe environment. So I put the cart before the horse and had a GCM come out to do an evaluation before asking my Dad if it was ok. When it came to the bill, I explained that the GCM was to make my job easier caring for them. Like I said, he begrudgingly agreed to it but I had to take a stand - we were at a critical point with their living situation. It was 3 against 1! It was 3 years ago and the struggle with the siblings and Dad was worth it to have the assistance of a GCM.
In the beginning, I met with the GCM once a week for about 6 weeks because there was so much I had worries about. Then, for a couple of months, it was every other week - then, once a month for 2 or 3 months until I felt like I was ok in my own decision making.
What really helped was that the GCM took an interest in Dad, listened to him and he knew that his wants and needs were important in the care plan. I think part of the objection from our parents is not understanding that the GCM is their person to help them do whatever it is they want and need in their lives.
It's always good to have POA, though, so you may want to see if you can share POA with your brother. I now share POA with my sister who lives out of town. She handles the financial matters and I handle the hands-on care. We just recently hired another geriatric care manager because of new issues. We meet every other week for now. She's been helping me with interviewing and hiring caregivers.