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Any suggestions on how we can navigate this? She cannot be on her own and does not want to leave him to stay at my house while he recovers. I work full time so it would be a challenge to have her live with me but I could make it work if no other solution. If it was up to my dad, she would stay in the hospital/rehab facility with him but I don't feel that is what is best for all involved. It's not the hospital's responsibility to make sure she is taken care of.

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Speak with her doctor and Dad's social workers. Meanwhile, if she isn't safe at home then there is truly NO choice but placing her in short term respite. You have no assurance at this time as to whether your father can return to this care. My bet would be that he CANNOT. This means you are looking, I am afraid, at Mom coming with you, having full time help, or being in respite care.

Sure wish you the best. This is hard in best of circumstances, and being far removed isn't that.
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The hospital and rehab will not allow your mother to stay there because she is not a patient. However, if the rehab does have skilled nursing with respite maybe an arrangement can be made where she is in respite at same facility your father does rehab. A negative will be if your father doesn't concentrate on rehab and fails to progress. Then he will be discharged and his recovery will be hindered.

He can hire a 24/7 caregiver, have her stay with your (if you are willing) with paid caregiving to allow you to work, or call for respite care at facilities. Tough choices are needed and necessary. Life is difficult when the caregiver is sick or needs medical procedure that renders him unable to care for the LO. A plan is crucial. Good luck.
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Either Mom stays with you or she goes to respite care at an assisted living . Respite care is when someone stays at assisted living temporarily . It is used for exactly times like this, where the caregiver ( your Dad ) can not be with Mom . Sometimes respite care is used if the caregiver wants a break , or to go on vacation etc . Respite care is typically paid for out of pocket , except in the case when hospice is involved.
The hospital/ rehab will not take Mom in to stay with Dad.
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