About 2 years ago my mother-in-law had a stroke. Fairly minor, but she needs some help and her short term memory is sketchy. She volunteered (and still does from time to time) at a senior center and they love her. They would love to have her living there. The roadblock in my father-in-law. He's basically mourning his still living wife. My husband, his brother and myself have offered help, given him resources to talk to, web sites to go to and he does nothing. Can't even get him to do a simple will. He's overwhelmed, lost, angry and has largely given up. He has even said he is not cut out to be a caregiver. We would be happy to do a lot of the work for him - filling out online forms, making phone calls - to get her into assisted living and give him a break, but he won't let us. Won't give us their financial info that would be needed. He's otherwise healthy and perfectly able to function. And I don't mean to paint him as a villain in this situation. Has anyone else run into this? What can we do? We want to get help for both of them without destroying the family. Any ideas? Suggestions?