My mother is 84 years old and currently living at home. She has dementia and mental illness (bipolar and / or personality disorder). She has a caregiver who visits her a few hours 4 days a week. However, the caregiver is resigning because she can't handle my mother's behaviors (outbursts, mood swings, threats, and anger). She hasn't been physical, but the caregiver gets very uncomfortable and scared when my mother has her outbursts. We are looking at Memory Care facilities because we feel no inhome care service will be able to handle my mother. This is the second caregiver who quits (the poor thing lasted 2 years). We are in the process of activating the POA. How can we make the transition to a facility easier for everyone? She will not go without a fight.
The MC is used to adjustment problems. But they may require assessment and medication.
If you have the right given Mom's diagnosis as having dementia severe enough to make her incompetent, then this is just "done". It is just explained that this is how it must be, will be, and that you will be there for her to adjust.
She will likely require transportation by ambulance. Do not expect that it will go without rage/tears or both.
You need to be honest about your mother's current diagnoses, and I hope that the MC facilities will be honest with you, because the underlying mental illnesses may preclude your mother being in care with others without medications.
I wish you the best. This is a journey that is full of unpredictability. Expect the unexpected and try to take it a day at a time. I am so sorry for all involved.