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My mother is 84 years old and currently living at home. She has dementia and mental illness (bipolar and / or personality disorder). She has a caregiver who visits her a few hours 4 days a week. However, the caregiver is resigning because she can't handle my mother's behaviors (outbursts, mood swings, threats, and anger). She hasn't been physical, but the caregiver gets very uncomfortable and scared when my mother has her outbursts. We are looking at Memory Care facilities because we feel no inhome care service will be able to handle my mother. This is the second caregiver who quits (the poor thing lasted 2 years). We are in the process of activating the POA. How can we make the transition to a facility easier for everyone? She will not go without a fight.

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You have the POA and the necessary documentation?
The MC is used to adjustment problems. But they may require assessment and medication.
If you have the right given Mom's diagnosis as having dementia severe enough to make her incompetent, then this is just "done". It is just explained that this is how it must be, will be, and that you will be there for her to adjust.

She will likely require transportation by ambulance. Do not expect that it will go without rage/tears or both.

You need to be honest about your mother's current diagnoses, and I hope that the MC facilities will be honest with you, because the underlying mental illnesses may preclude your mother being in care with others without medications.

I wish you the best. This is a journey that is full of unpredictability. Expect the unexpected and try to take it a day at a time. I am so sorry for all involved.
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You get the POA made effective by a Neurologist or a said a geriatric psychiatrist. Since psychiatrists are scarce in my area, then I would go with a Neurologist. She can be medicated for these outbursts. A MC is equipped to care for someone like your Mom if she is not medicated. They are one step up from an AL. Once ur POA is invoked, you go looking for a MC when you find one, place Mom. Get the doctor to give you a sedative to keep her calm. She has dementia and cannot be reasoned with or make decisions. Its all up to you to decide for her. Thats why there is a POA assigned. Mom can no longer make decisions for herself.
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Try a geriatric psychiatrist they may be able to give her medicine to calm her down .
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