In the past 3 weeks she has changed drastically and refuses water and food. She mainly sleeps now and when she last spoke to her in home caregiver she prayed for God to forgive her for the way she treated her sons, one of which is my dear friend. She muttered she wants to go home. My heart aches for him, as I don't have the words...everything I think to say sounds so cliche'. What have others experienced that helps the surviving grieving family left behind?