My mother and father lived for a number of years in a small town, as their health issues grew worse I moved them closer to me and my children so that they could have better health care and family support around them. My father is very angry about the move even though he initially agreed to it. In addition both he and Mom have refused to get to know any of the other seniors in their building and have isolated themselves in their apartment. (They live in a senior building)
Although we are in daily contact with them and I and my husband have offered to take them out to events which they might enjoy they have both refused to join life again. Mom was the one who complained constantly about the small town life and wanted to move here yet I cannot get her to do anything. She just wants to sit and read books or watch television. She has gained a tremendous amount of weight and won't listen to her doctors, family or anyone tell her that she must start some sort of activity.
My father on the other hand gripes that the big city is too much for him and he no longer has any friends. In truth all of his friends have passed away so there is nothing I can do about that except offer him the opportunity to meet new ones. I realize that change is terrifying for seniors but this has been going on for three years now and I'm at my wits end. How can I help my parents to live again? Is this usual for seniors? Has anyone else gone through this? Help!